{ LIFESTYLE }
12 Mar 2019
女人三十的關口 天后Taylor Swift告訴女生的人生習題



對於很多女生而言,30歲的確是人生的一個心理關口。來到2019年,恰巧萬人迷Taylor Swift也踏入了三十了~最近她就接受到外國雜誌《Elle》的訪問,面對人生、事業、愛情等生命習題,她有一些說話,想分享給一眾女生。

 

面對流言斐語

 

Taylor的感情事和私生活一直是大家的焦點,網路上的Haters也不斷窮追猛打,她承受的壓力可想而知有多沈重。面對抨擊,她就有這一番的體悟。


 

'' I need to block some of the voice...I think it’s healthy for your self-esteem to need less internet praise to appease it, especially when three comments down you could unwittingly see someone telling you that you look like a weasel that got hit by a truck and stitched back together by a drunk taxidermist. An actual comment I received once.''

 

事實上,不但是名人,就算是普羅大眾,也少不免被social media的三言兩語影響自己的想法和感覺。你的價值和定位,斷不是由別人的comment來釐定、評價。

View this post on Instagram

A post shared by Taylor Swift (@taylorswift) on




你不需要時時刻刻當個好人

 

‘’Being sweet to everyone all the time can get you into a lot of trouble. While it may be born from having been raised to be a polite young lady, this can contribute to some of your life’s worst regrets if someone takes advantage of this trait in you. Grow a backbone, trust your gut, and know when to strike back. Be like a snake—only bite if someone steps on you.’’

 

雖然學校教育我們要當個有溫文有禮的女生,但面對所有人也要友善,偶爾會造成不少麻煩。正正因為你的友善,別人才有機可乘在你身上找好處。你需要相信自己的直覺,當個有棱角的女生,必要時更要為自己據理力爭。就好像蛇一樣,它只會在別人挑釁時張牙露爪。


 

愛情不需要玩把戲

 

In a real relationship or friendship, you’re shooting yourself in the foot if you don’t tell the other person how you feel, and what could be done to fix it. No one is a mind reader. If someone really loves you, they want you to verbalize how you feel. This is real life, not chess.

 

在一段真正的友誼裡,你不能一直在猜心。告訴對方你的真正想法,並不會弄垮你們之間的關係。沒人能懂讀心術,對方要是真愛你的話,他會盡可能想要理解你的真正想法。愛情誠然不是博奕遊戲。

View this post on Instagram

A post shared by Taylor Swift (@taylorswift) on


友情也分階段性

 

Learning the difference between lifelong friendships and situationships. Something about “we’re in our young twenties!” hurls people together into groups that can feel like your chosen family. And maybe they will be for the rest of your life. Or maybe they’ll just be your comrades for an important phase, but not forever. It’s sad but sometimes when you grow, you outgrow relationships. You may leave behind friendships along the way, but you’ll always keep the memories.

 

你需要懂得區分階段性友誼和真正的友情。在二十歲時,你會覺得身邊的朋友像你的家人一樣,會分分秒秒守護在你的身旁。可惜事與願違,朋友也非必然。有些人只能在人生某個階段同舟共濟,像個親密盟友一樣,時間一過,關係也就完了。最遺憾的是,朋友關係追不上你的成長速度,舊朋友就像一件再也穿不下的毛衣。你可能會把他們遺下在原地,但回憶永遠也會長駐於心。



Source : https://www.elle.com/culture/celebrities/a26628467/taylor-swift-30th-birthday-lessons/

Text : Kyle Yue

KEYWORDS / Taylor Swift, POP
YOU MAY ALSO LIKE
News
Feature
Blog
Load more
 
NOTIFICATION